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Laugh & Learn – Porn Get the Facts

What are you watching?

Hey Mia, I’m just watching some porn.

Yeah, just watching porn. Why?

Oh, I uh, I asked out Chloe a few days ago, and she said yes, so… I’m just doing a little preparation.

You do not prepare for a first date by watching porn!

What? But, how else am I supposed to know what to do?

Ray, what happens in porn isn’t reality, you can’t copy it in real life.

You can’t?

No, porn stars are paid performers. The things they do are sometimes unsafe, and women are treated like objects and called awful names.

Oh… So I shouldn’t call Chloe a…

No! No, if it was in a porn film, no.

Are you sure?

Yes, I’m sure.

Okay, phew. Well, thanks for clearing that up Mia, I could have made a real mess of that one.

It’s all right, any time.

Well, if you’ll excuse me I have a driving test tomorrow, so I better do some preparation.

Why, you going to revise or something?

Uh, no I just thought I’d watch The Fast and the Furious a couple times. You know, get my head around this whole driving thing.

Good luck with that.

Thanks.

Porn isn’t safe sex. It’s not. Nor does it really look like fun or enjoyable either. It’s not real. There’s a lot of negative aspects of pornography, especially the treatment of women as sexual objects. It’s really unrealistic and you kind of forget that in sex and in love, it’s another person.

No. No, I don’t think it is.

It’s not a representation of what actually happens. Quite often, they neglect to wear any sort of protection. There’s none of that bonding, or relationship, or discussion, or the feelings you might have after having sex, especially for the first time.

Sex in real life looks nothing like sex in porn, both in terms of what they do, how they act, how they treat each other, even what they look like. It’s some weird strange, theatre that looks nothing like real life. You have to separate the fiction from the reality.

Yeah. They’re getting paid to look like they’re enjoying themselves. It’s part of the job.

Yeah. It’s a part of the performance. Porn sometimes makes it seem like you have sex at someone.

But really, it’s something you do with someone. It’s a two-way street and a partnership. It’s your own body, it’s your own relationship, and you’re gonna find your own way through that. Don’t try and emulate what you see. It’s completely fiction.

Yeah, it’s not real. Porn, like anything else, like superhero movies, whatever you want to see in the media, it does appeal to an ideal, and it’s always, you know, big, busty lady with lots of curves and a really muscular man with a waxed chest and no one should expect to see that in real life. It’d be extremely rare and strange to see that in real life.

So it is, it’s quite unhealthy to have that in your head and to place those expectations onto yourself and another person. It’s just not gonna be fun if you’re not happy with yourself, and the other person is not happy with themselves. It’s just, not going to be as enjoyable. If you tried to apply what you’ve seen in pornography into the real world… One, you’d probably hurt yourself trying. If you compare yourself and your sex life to porn, there’s always obviously gonna be a gap.

If you’re not sure about it, the best way to do it is just to talk with your partner. See what they’re comfortable with. So just kind of finding your way together.

Ask your old man.

You’re still not watching porn are you?

No, I’m not watching porn. I’m still learning how to drive.