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Healthy relationships
Boyfriends, breakups, love, sex, pashing.
Hey, I’m Ash.
And I’m Scott.
Are you starting a new relationship? Got a new boyfriend or girlfriend? Or wondering about the relationship that you’re already in? We’re here to talk about healthy relationships.
So, what are the things that make a relationship healthy?
- You respect each other.
- You give each other space.
- You trust each other fully.
- You listen to each other.
- You should be able to express what you feel to the other person.
- Be honest with each other.
- Understand the other person’s point of view.
If you want a relationship to work, you have to stick to the basics: trust, mutual respect, and open communication.
Everybody wants a healthy relationship, and part of that is learning how to deal with hassles. Every relationship’s got hassles.
- Arguments
- Feeling pressure to do stuff you don’t want to do
- Long distance relationships
- Feeling controlled
- Your partner doesn’t get along with your friends
- Feeling stuck
- Jealousy
What do you do if there’s something you’re unhappy about? Don’t sit back and wait for things to change! Solving problems can be tricky, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give it a go.
When you’re feeling annoyed or frustrated, you can’t just expect your partner to know why. You actually have to say what’s on your mind.
You don’t have to agree on everything— that’d be boring! But you need to listen and respect each other’s ideas. Also, be prepared to find a compromise to make things work.
Spending time apart is important too, so you can have your own interests and friendships. You should aim to feel happy both on your own as well as a couple.
And when it comes to sex, you need to be sure you understand what you both want, so no one ever feels pressured or uncomfortable about it.
Sometimes relationships don’t work out, and you have to go your separate ways.
Different people feel different things when they experience a breakup.
- When you break up, you feel lonely.
- Like it’s the end of the world, and you’ll never be happy again.
- Angry
- Disappointed
- Sometimes relieved
- Let down
- Sad
- Really depressed
The end of a relationship doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you! Lots of people break up, but you don’t have to be in a relationship to feel happy. It’s better to not be in a relationship than to be in a bad one.
Don’t get stuck on the past; don’t get hung up on what went wrong.
Remember that all relationships have good and bad moments, so don’t focus only on the things that weren’t working. You broke up for a reason, so stay realistic about things.
Think about what would actually be helpful, like physical health, eating well, sleeping enough. Plan a few times each week to hang out with your mates.
You might not feel like it at first, but give it a go.
And give yourself some time to get over it. If the feeling of sadness or anger are still intense, think about talking to someone. Seeing a counsellor can be really helpful. They can show you how to look at things a little differently, get past the negative stuff.
Your local Headspace center has counsellors who are there to help, or you can log on to eheadspace. Headspace is especially for young people, like you, so check it out.
And guys, don’t let relationships get you down!
Video by headspace
