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Sexual Pleasure

Hi everyone, my name is Julia and I’m Jeff, and we’re here from SHQ for National Condom Day. We’re making some videos to go through all the different themes for National Condom Day, which are pleasure, consent, condoms, and getting tested. So we’re here today to talk about pleasure.

Alright, okay, so first question: My partner doesn’t sound like they do in porn. Am I doing something wrong?

So, not necessarily. Everyone is individual, and everyone makes different noises during sex and does different things. Porn isn’t necessarily a great reflection of real-life sex, and we have to remember that they are paid actors. There’s often different things that go on to make porn look the way that it does. So what’s important is that you remember what feels good for you and what feels good for your partner. The best way to find that out is just to communicate with your partner, but you don’t have to think what happens in porn is what should be happening in your sex life.

Alright, question number 2: How do I tell my partner about my fantasies?

So, getting to share your fantasies and what you want to do can be a really exciting part, either being in the relationship or in sexual activity. There are lots of different ways to do that, and it’s different for everyone. It might start by having a conversation about, “Well, what are you into? What do you like doing?” Some people find it easier to write it down. I think it’s better to say that there’s no right or wrong way to go about it, as long as you feel comfortable with yourself and you’re making sure that the other person feels comfortable with the conversation as well.

Cool, okay, next question: Is wanking too much bad for you?

Not necessarily. Masturbating is a really great way to get to know your body. It’s a great way to feel pleasure by yourself and sometimes with someone else as well. Possibly, if it starts interrupting your schoolwork or possibly work in general, then maybe it might be a little bit of an issue, but generally, most of the time, masturbating or wanking too much is definitely not a bad thing, and it’s not bad for you either. It’s actually really healthy.

Awesome, and the lucky last question: Where is the clitoris?

So, the clitoris is the only organ in the body that’s designed just for pleasure. We’ve got one here to show you. What you can see on the outside of the body on the vulva is just the tip of the clitoris, which is just here. The rest of the clitoris, which is this here (this is actually life-size), lays inside the body.

So for people with the clitoris, some people might find that it’s really, really sensitive and just needs to be touched lightly, while other people will find that maybe a little bit rougher is better. Every person is different, and they differ in size as well. But in general, that’s what the clitoris looks like.

Thanks, guys! Bye!

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