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How can you tell someone has a drinking problem. By the behavioral changes that they may show, they might have more extreme emotions like anger or depression, or they could be unusually happy. There may be personality changes, and it’s always worth asking someone how they’re going if you notice any changes. It might be something they want to talk about, and it could open up the chance for them to say, “I think I’m drinking a bit too much.”

I would certainly look at what agencies are out there to get some support and provide them with information about alcohol. You can never be wrong by asking someone if you think they’re drinking too much. Saying something like, “Are you okay? Do you think you’re drinking too much?” gives them the chance to answer. Then, following it up with good, healthy information or just letting them know, “I’m here if you want to talk,” can be helpful. Don’t necessarily overtly talk to them, but definitely listen as much as you can because there’s likely some pain or need for that person to talk about their experience with alcohol.

Ask, “Have you talked to your parents? Have you talked to your doctor about it? Do you know about services that are out there to help you, like youth services or adult services?” Make sure to refer them to these places, or encourage them to reach out. If they’re not comfortable ringing up, you could do it for them, or even go with them to their appointments. It’s about keeping your own boundaries in place. We don’t have to please the person who’s drinking or do things just to keep them happy. It’s our responsibility to ourselves to maintain our own well-being in this situation.

If the person is doing things that bother you, like getting violent or taking risks (unsafe sex, for example), it’s really important not to get caught up in that moment. You’re not helping them, and you’re certainly not helping yourself by getting involved in that kind of behavior. If you’re affected by violence towards yourself or are witnessing it, especially by a friend who’s drinking (or even a parent or family member), the best thing to do is to get out of it. Don’t become part of it.