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When it comes to learning about your body and your health, there are no stupid questions here on You Can Ask That. You will ask sexual health educators some of the questions you might be too ashamed to ask yourself.

How do I be a good boyfriend?

Be caring, caring, loving, I think. Yeah, if you’ve got a problem with each other, talk about it together instead of on Facebook or with your friends. Yeah, respect each other’s feelings. Yeah, and being able to talk about your feelings together and know that it’s gonna be listened to and heard by your partner is really important, I think. And if you live together, do the dishes once in a while. Yeah, the housework, that always helps.

And I think it’s really important for us to be talking about jealousy, you know, and I didn’t think that jealousy is part of a healthy relationship. So yeah, and caring about well-being, mental well-being. Yeah, so little things. It’s not about spending lots of money on races and fancy dinners, it’s more about being available to your partner emotionally and spending quality time together. And that could just be, yeah, going for a walk together or, you know, hanging out in the park or the drive in the car. Yeah, listen to your favorite music.

Why does it hurt when I pee?

Oh, could be a few answers there, but the first thing I would think is that possibly an STI is involved, and I’d be recommending that you pop one down to your local medical clinic, talk to a health worker or a doctor, and get an answer. It may not be an STI, but either way, you’re in the right place. Peace of mind and also watching after your own health, you know.

Does sex hurt the first time?

Two girls? Yeah, two girls. Yeah, it could hurt the first time.

Not if it’s done right. That’s pretty much it. Generally, sex shouldn’t be painful. If it’s painful, then there’s probably something that’s not right about that situation. One of those things could actually be that somebody’s feeling really nervous and not that comfortable with what’s happening. So if the person is relaxed and they’re into what’s happening, you know, women’s bodies take a while to warm up and get in that mode, but once a woman is into what is going on, the vagina actually opens up, the cervix moves away, the vagina gets lubricated, and all of those things help to make sex enjoyable. I guess uncomfortable.

And this is why I think a lot of sexual health educators talk with young men about, you know, the importance of foreplay and, you know, making sure that the woman’s physically ready, as well as all of that consent stuff that, yeah, you know, we were talking about. So I think taking your time the first time and making sure that you’ve talked about it and that you’re emotionally and mentally feeling positive about the interaction helps your body to physically relax.

So I think that is one of the things. Anything? Yeah, if you are feeling really tense and, you know, it’s gonna be more closed up and potentially that will be more painful as well. So that’s also a bit of a sign maybe for you that, yeah, you may not really be into what’s happening, too. And knowing that stuff kind of, yeah, can help you navigate that a bit more, I think.

Yeah, stay tuned for the next episode of You Can Ask That to see if some of your questions are answered.

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