When does banter go too far? – with Randwick Rugby

28th July, 2023    |    By  Reach Out    |     387

We spoke to the guys at Randwick Rugby about the banter that goes on in the team and locker room. Hear what they have to say about joking around, and when it goes too far.


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When does banter go too far? – with Randwick Rugby

Um, um, um, banter, banter. I’d say bullying.

“Should have gone to Specsavers.”

“Should have gone to Specsavers?” I could advance with that one. So it’s banter. I feel like it’s a lot more banter than bullying. It’s pretty light-hearted.

“Skip leg day.”

“Did you skip leg day? Did you?”

Ah, that’s definitely banter. It’s banter. It’s a bit of banter. I got that a little bit—banter.

If he’s got two legs, it’s banter. If he doesn’t have any legs, it’s definitely bullying. I think that’s self-explanatory, that one.

“Don’t be a…”

That’s an interesting one. I think that’s banter in this kind of team setting. I think it would be considered a bit of banter—lighthearted, I’d say.

Bullying? I think it’s kind of one of those casual things that people don’t realize what they’re saying. I’m gonna go with bullying. In this day and age, it’s probably not the right word.

“Who invited you?”

“Who invited you?” That’s a tough one.

“Who invited you?” A lot of that is banter. Kind of bitter bullying as well, depending on the situation.

Um, I would say that’s banter. I’d probably say that to someone who’s quite close to me. If it’s someone that you don’t know, then that’s bullying. But if it’s a close friend, then it could be a bit of banter.

It’s very important to joke around and, you know, be with your mates because, you know, you can be a lot more yourself around them. You have your own sense of humor within that group.

A lot of the time, the meaning is for it to be banter, but it could be, to the person you are speaking with, that they perceive it as bullying. If you don’t know the person, you don’t know what they’re going through or what’s going on in their head. A lot of people find it easy to just smile, but it could have got to them—and you won’t know that by their reaction.

If someone has said something to you that has maybe gone a little too far, you definitely should speak up. What’s the point of just standing there and letting it happen again?

You don’t really need to be afraid to go up to your friend and tell them how you feel because if you’re afraid of their reaction, like, they’re not really your friend. You should be able to talk to your friends about anything, really.

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